April 19, 1984
The following material is for dictation,
but I am giving it here also so that Ruburt will take it specifically to
heart. There are certain simple steps
that can be followed, whenever you find yourself in a difficult situation,
whether the condition is one of poor health, a stressful personal involvement
with another, a financial dilemma, or whatever.
These steps seem very obvious, and perhaps
too easy – but they will bring an immediate sense of ease and a peace of mind
while your inner reserves are being released and activated. I have mentioned these steps many times,
because they are so vital in clearing the conscious mind, and bringing some
sense of relief to the frightened ego.
1.
Immediately begin to live in
the present as much as possible. Try to
become as aware as you can of present sense-data – all of it. Often, while you are in pain, for example,
you concentrate upon that sensation alone, ignoring the feelings of ease that
may be felt by other portions of the body, and unaware of the conglomeration of
sounds, sights, and impressions that are also in the immediate
environment. This procedure will
immediately lessen the pressure of the problem itself, whatever it is,
and give you a sense of refreshment.
2.
Refuse to worry. This fits in automatically with Step 1, of
course. Tell yourself you can worry all
you want tomorrow, or on some other occasion – but resolve not to worry
in the present moment.
3.
When your thoughts do touch
upon your particular problem in the present moment, imagine the best possible
solution to the dilemma. Do not wonder
how or why or when the ideal solution will come, but see it in your mind’s eye
as accomplished. Or, if you are not
particularly good at visual imagery, then try to get the feeling of
thanksgiving and joy that you would feel if the problem was solved to
your complete satisfaction.
These steps will allow you breathing time,
and actually help minimize the pressure of your situation, whatever it is. Then, quieted, you will be able to consider
other suitable steps that may more directly address your particular solution.
Aside for Jane
While you and Ruburt embark upon a resolved
path of getting to the bottom of Ruburt’s difficulties, it is highly important
that Ruburt in particular increase his experience of pleasure, and his
concentration upon it, so that pleasure can counter any other
emotionally distressful feelings that may emerge along the way.
Again, we do not want a concentration
solely upon deeply felt fears. While
these must be uncovered, they should be balanced by a new determination to seek
out pleasure – the pleasure will help couch the fears.
We will not abandon book dictation, but the
concentration for now will be largely devoted to better Ruburt’s condition by
releasing his own energies, health, and flexibility.
I suggest you start with a kind of free association
on Ruburt’s part. With your resolve in mind,
almost any subject matter you begin with will start to lead in the proper direction.
Again, we want, say, the release of painful
thoughts or emotions somehow balanced by the steps I gave today, so that they provide
a kind of supporting framework.
I will interrupt whenever I can be of benefit
– and I will also provide sometimes short but pithy session material that can be
used sometimes as subject matter for free association. You can begin of course by free associating with
any appropriate subject – his mother, his father, your relationship, your individual
or joint sexual feelings, his ideas about his psychic material, his writing, or
whatever – and I will also provide guidelines.
The endeavor itself will also activate his own
dream mechanisms, and you will find that both of you bring new creative understandings
to the task.
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