An internal compass
From DeMarco, Frank. Rita's World Vol 2: A View from the Non-Physical (Kindle Location 2359). Rainbow Ridge Books. Kindle Edition".
(Q) Shall we begin as you advised me to yesterday, Miss Rita, with queued-up questions, or do you have something different in mind today?
(A) Everything connects. I think you will find, in the long run, that one's plans and short-term maneuverings mean little as opposed to one's deeper motivations and interests. So, it amounts to saying, do what you want to do and you will wind up expressing who you are, and therefore and thereby, what you want to do. It is how we live when the ever-moving-resent-moment goad and stimulus is removed from the equation.
(Q) I hadn't thought of that. It sort of implies that if one has no internal compass, once can only be blown about by the winds.
(A) Well, it might be more helpful to put it this way: Once beyond 3D time as it is experienced, your array of choice is much experienced, and this has both agreeable and disagreeable aspects. For those who have never had enough time to do everything they wanted to do, it is freedom. For those whose life was internal tedium stemming from lack of internal resources or direction, it can be a harsh and empty desert. But either of these extremes is much modified, of course, to the extent that the newly arrived soul is in greater touch with the rest of itself, for all those other influences will modulate and to some degree contradict any extreme reaction.
(Q) But in any case, it means that preference, individual will, self-direction, is important to our afterlife.
(A) To our continued, expanded, life, yes. The new Marine just out of boot camp has been repaid for his recently endured hardships by a greatly strengthened self-reliance and a tightly formed or perhaps re-formed sense of self. So, it is with compound beings emerging from the 3D life that shaped or re-shaped them. (And just for the sake of a complete statement, I remind you and your readers that in my context, "3D" or "Earth" when used generically includes allmatter, not only one planet.)
We may return to this particular aspect of post-3D existence at another time. Meanwhile, let's clear the queue a bit.
Patience and healing
(Q) [An email question from a person who had an unsettling experience with relatives and felt betrayed: She is "wondering what in my shadow land brought this about now. I can only hope with patience and time I will be less distraught and angry. Last night, I confronted my brother in a dream. Despite all my work on forgiving, rationalizing, etc. I felt a deep betrayal from him."]
(A) Perhaps consider this. There is actually no hurrying psychic process beyond a certain point, any more than there is a hurrying of physical healing beyond a certain rate. This is not an absolutelytrue statement - for miracles occur, and in the absence of miracles, still one can do better or worse at helping the process of healing - but relativelyit is true. I'd say, simply, be patient with yourself and hold your intent at healing, and give yourself and the universe time, remembering that you will rarely have the full story of what is going on or why it takes time.