Rita on change

The variable in communicating

From DeMarco, Frank. Rita's World Vol 2: A View from the Non-Physical (Kindle Location 1407). Rainbow Ridge Books. Kindle Edition

(Q)  Am I "here" enough for any real dialogue, after so many days of busyness and company? [I had moved into my new house the day before.]  Miss Rita, what say you?

(A)  It is good that you realize - as representative of those who undertake this path - that the variable is always, not are "they" on "the other side" ready and willing, but, are you?  Because we are not carried along by the ever-moving present moment, we are always available, and cannot be too tied up for you.  This is multi-tasking, only without the slight overtone of distraction of split focus that must inevitably accompany multi-tasking in 3D.

You have many reorganizations to accomplish in your life, and for a while it may seem like a whirlwind, but remember your insight about Hemingway's final years.

(Q)  Rightly or wrongly, I got that Papa's last years were somewhat shaped by an increasing discomfort with being away from the Finca. He got too ensconced in a routine, even though that routine included having many people around him.  After a certain point, he became uncomfortable, then somewhat fearful, of the uncertainties of travel.  But I may be seeing this wrong.

(A)  In any case, whenever you read of someone's life and search it for lessons for yourself, what you are left with is what resonates for you - thus, it has value for yourself regardless whether it could be said to be "objectively" true.

Yes, I get that. Like flipping a coin to make a decision.  It's a very efficient way to see how you feel about it.  You flip the coin, and then you don't necessarily do what the coin toss indicates, but you do know, more clearly whether you are happy it came up heads rather than tails or vice versa.

Now go do the many things you have to do today.  I will be here as you (or anyone) desire.

Moving as metaphor

(A)  I was thinking about your move, with its attendant disorganization, as metaphor.  If you want to move, you must be willing to pack up whatever you will bring with you, and carry it, in one way or another, and then blend those possessions into your new unfamiliar surroundings.  The life you resume leading may be as near identical to the old one as you can manage, or may be as different as you can manage, or anywhere between the extremes, but one thing is sure; it will not be identical with the former life because your new environment will not be the same, and everything will interact with it in ways obvious or not.  This, just as any relationship with people, will change if either of the two change.

But isn't it just precisely what you want, change?  And of course, Frank, I'm not speaking only to you.  You can't want to change - or, no, let me put it another way, to avoid possible misunderstanding.  Change involves change.  You can't change without changing.  You know the line from John Nelson's book.

(Q)  From Matrix of the Gods.  The guru says, more or less, "Oh, it's the same old thing, they all want to know how they can change without changing"

(A)  And of course, put that way, the absurdity is obvious to one and all.  But in everyday life, it is easy to favor change as a goal, yet criticize or groan under or fear change as an on-going process.

(Q)  You're talking about The Change.

(A)  The Change, yes, in the sense of the great move forward that the guys talked to us about, before I became one of the guys.  But don't let yourself unconsciously fall into the trap of thinking in terms of onebig change, like changing your clocks to Eastern Enlightenment Time and that's it.  That isn't how life works.  Life is not an earthquake, though earthquakes happen, but a daily incremental process of growth and decay.  Change, in short.

So, yes, The Change, a change in how the human experience interacts with other non-3D and - don't forget - with other parts of itself while still in body.  But also change, process, flow.  Life, in a word.

I am hearing, life goes on, transformation or not.

How else could it be? People get tired, conceptually, and they give way every so often to a longing for things to stop changing.  But is that really what they want?

(Q)  No, they want things to stop hurting.

(A)  May I suggest, they have a headache and want people to stop banging a drum next to them.  It isn't that they want things to stop, paralyzed, in their tracks, but that they want the volume turned down.  And you know the answer to that.

(Q)  I do.  I was always surprised you spent so much time watching CNN, even though I realized that your active mind needed something to fix on.  But - the news?  And, particularly, the news day and night?  Yet it never turned you negative, never dimmed your optimism in any way I ever noticed.

(A)  My outer life had been reduced to minimal demands.  My mobility was limited, I had people to take care of the everyday needs for me - I was very fortunate in that.  Therefore, the barrage of reported strife and chaos and recurrent crisis and rumor of crisis to come did not add to an already burdened psyche.

(Q)  I do see the difference.  And I suppose you weren't really a news junkie, you just needed to keep your mind active.

(A)  Youhelped with that, you know.  Our time together was very good for me, because there in the house was this energetic, optimistic, expressive personality with one foot still in the outer world of authors and thinkers and the other in my own world of the Institute and our joint pursuits and fascinations.  So, you'd come "bouncing down the stairs", as Little Rita used to say ["Little Rita" refers to Rita Fisher, for many years Rita's - Big Rita's - caregiver in many small practical ways], and it would be a gust of fresh air with something new - part of your novel about Gateway, say, or your latest conversation with somebody, or ideas that had come to you for us to consider.

(Q)  Not to mention our weekly sessions with The Guys Upstairs, which was your idea, remember.

(A)  It was my idea in so far as I suggested it, thinking we would be recreating the booth sessions more conveniently for me, in my own house, and more conveniently for you, after the end of your work day.  Neither one of us, I think, had any idea what lay in store for us.

(Q)  A total rearrangement of how we saw the world.

(A)  And, gradually, how we lived in the world, as ideas settled in.

(Q)  Those were good times.

(A)  Yes, they were.  And had there been less of an age disparity between us, people would have suspected we were lovers.

(Q)  They probably did anyway!  Your daughters did, or pretended to.  But we certainly did love each other in the agape sense of the word.  Are we off-topic, here?

(A)  I'm smiling, metaphorically at least.  From the non-3D end of things, there isno "off-topic", because everything leads to everything else and there are no artificial divisions that 3D and especially the ever-moving present moment tempts you to see as real.

Living the change

(A)  But even in 3D terms, we aren't off-topic.  The topic is, or could be seen as, living the change as it comes along and making a thousand incremental adjustments or - depending on one's conscious or unconscious preference - a few major jolts, or any combination thereof.

(Q)  And the connection?

(A)  Read The Sphere and the Hologram!  It's all there.  That's the process that moved us into a new way of experiencing the world.

(Q)  Are you advising people to read it as their way to move?

(A)  No, I'm saying to you, Frank, that the implicit connection between the topic and our pleasant reminiscence should be obvious to you if you will re-read or at least look into our sessions again after what will seem to you a long time.  In essence, I started by using your relocation as metaphor for living amid change. Then I said, people get overwhelmed by its manifestation around them.  I reminded you that you and I created a different sub-set of the world centered in love and in mutual interest and, behind our own backs you might say, we created a body of work that proved to be more enduring than we would have expected when we began it.

That's what people can do. Create their own community in love, as for example, many TMI program participants do.  Keep a connection with the non-3D for emotional balance and intellectual stimulations.

(Q)  And turn off the television!

(A)  I'm smiling again.  That's the point - I never did turn off the television, but I balanced all that tension and negativity with the positive aspects of my own life around me. Your own path isn't for everybody, you know.

(Q)  One of the Three Great Lies: "One size fits all".

(A)  And don't forget it.  But it is true that anyone's path may serve as example to others.  Only remember that Thoreau himself told people not to blindly imitate him, but only take a hint if it happened to apply. Okay, that's enough for the morning.